There are a few things I wish I had known some time back. I am not regretting however I am learning and I am listening to the Lord as He teaches me these things that are valuable in life. As I look into moments back I can’t help but marvel at how much the Lord is true to His word and how He is evident in all my life situation.
Let me share some areas that I truly believe the Lord has desired of my understanding even as i battled with my own humanly thoughts and worries.
Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 writes to the church of Corinth sharing his view concerning the issue of being married and unmarried (single). As I read these verses I am reminded of my single life and how I journeyed through it. Not how I wish I did now looking back but I am glad the Lord placed this in my heart now.
As singles most of the time we find ourselves in constant battle and worries of who will be the man. Our quiet time is often disrupted by thoughts and the wonder of how time might pass before we get the ring. We often find time to dwell and fascinate on the glam magazines of weddings and envy about whose and what’s about weddings.
I am not saying it’s a sin to dream of your wedding one day. I am not rebuking the thought of wishing to be a wife. Nevertheless as Apostle Paul States in 1 Corinthians 7, I believe as much as we desire to be wives and long for the ring, let’s not our focus drift away from the one whom we should be devoted to in our single life.
“…………….And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be Holy in body and Spirit”
Yes you have been single for long, yes you desire a man, yes you have a dream dress, yes all your friends are getting married, yes there are nights when it all gets lonely, and yes time is really flying. But are all these drawing you close to God or whenever you go to God you are always in tears and question of why and when and who.
Is the amount of time you spend wondering about all those issues more than the time you spend with God thanking Him, loving Him and worshiping Him for His goodness in your quiet time. Do you find anything meaningful about your single life as Apostle Paul states ‘……..anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be Holy in body and Spirit’.
I can only wish that I understood then, that in my single life the Lord desired my devotion, my body and my spirit. The devotion to the word, the body that honors Him and a quiet spirit that longs for purity.
If you are single my prayer is that, as I had shared here, you will take this time and devote yourself to the Lord in body and Spirit and let Him answer the many questions you might be having. Allow Him to comfort you in your lonely nights and shield you from the society’s perverted ways.
May you have this time to go deeper with God and develop a relationship with Him now that your mind, thought and concerns are not divided unlike if you were married. You will not be forever single so value and cherish this moment, guard your heart with pure thought and let Him minister to you a new every day.
As you are single the only relationship that is of concern is that with the Lord, truly amazing that He desire to journey, love and embrace you and remind you how special you are.
I still don’t know how I landed in that class of 2010. Yet one thing I do know is that I longed for the day I would finish studying engineering so that I can go back and do fashion and design (my claimed passion).
I knew God had a plan for my life, I had given my life to Christ and I was involved in His work. However I was always on the notion that my life was meant for something much greater, I saw myself being someone great just not as an engineer. In my four years in school I was constantly in war with my engineering studies and my desire to be a fashion designer. This greatly affected my interest in studies and my attendance was not something to uphold.
Though I knew what God says in Jeremiah 29:11-13, most of the time I often landed in verses 11 never understanding that verse 12 and 13 was asking me to draw myself to God and seek Him as He continuously draw me closer to the purpose He had bestowed upon my life even before my days on earth.
Over that year I would cry to the Lord to help me finish quick so that I can be where He wants me to be. I thought I knew where the Lord wanted me to be, and that’s what the society feeds us everyday. We are constantly being told to change a course when we feel it doesn’t satisfy us, others go as far as dropping out to start their own business in the name of passion and talents.
Don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate gifted and talented people. I know of many gifted people who took time to study even if it wasn’t in line with their talents and now they are big. The Lord will not take you through a road that will lead you to destruction. I pray as a young person if you are on the road studying may you not find yourself thinking you will not amount to anything because you feel you are not passionate about what you are doing.
If the Lord is taking you through something is because He want you to learn some things that are key. A few years back I would advise you to listen to your heart and follow what it says. Now I know that unless the Lord says otherwise, my purpose lies exactly where He has placed me.
‘So what do I do when I feel like doing fashion and designer while I am in a class of engineering?’ you may be asking, as Jeremiah 29:12 – 13, call upon Him and He will hear you, seek Him and He will answer all those questions you got going on. He will help you and as you continue to seek Him. He will speak right to your heart and slowly reveal to you His purpose for your life.
- Two Year Working as an Engineer
Ever been in a place working and all you do is count hours every morning. You are in a company but you feel like you are getting wasted like crazy. You complain about their pay, working condition and even their attitude. You are always asking ‘God why on earth did you bring me to this company?’. All you can think of month after month is until when for another door to be open.
This has been me, as I mark two year of my life as an engineer, just as I have shared about my days in college I had carried the
same attitude to work. I have for days after days waited upon the day the Lord would finally bring me out of the place ‘I was not meant to be‘ to the place ‘I am meant to be‘. I have had my complaints and many times joined in the talk of how horrible my working place is. I have had issues that never end and there are days I felt so empty being on my desk.
Today as I look back I am brought to wonder what is it that can be said about my 2 years by my boss. Have I been productive in the small things he entrusted me to do? Have I been punctual? Have I been effective and have I delivered well. Would I be recommended out as I choose to face life out of this place?
Luke 16:10 is very clear. I want much to be bestowed to me; I want to be used by the Lord greatly. 2 years gone I have felt over and over that I have not been used to the potential I have and I deserve more. The word however challenges me and makes me to meditate and ask ‘Was I fruitful in the two years that I felt little was given to me? Were my days in here rewarding to them that placed little upon me?’
I believe I share the story of many young working youth in this country, those who are constantly in the belief that life is to be fun. We are to wake up every morning super excited about work. Every month we are to be happy because our accounts are over flowing with cash. We are to dictate when and how we report to work and if possible even how we work. Society has lied to us that we have the power in us to dictate our life and future. I will be honest, your life and your future is on the Lord. If you live away from Him you will constantly battle with who you are and what you ought to be.
If this is you please know that the Lord understands your heart desire however He is asking, ‘What have you done with the one I have trusted you with?’ Or like the lazy and wicked servant Mathew 25:14-19 will you remain justifying yourself with how your working place is. Your boss might be mean, your salary might be minimal, your working condition might be harsh but what is it about you that can be said that is positive and uplifting. Can you be trusted with much or will you lazily and wickedly mishandle it the way you have done with the little you have been given.
…………………………….My Simple Thought
In life we find our self crowded with the things of the world and even though we know what God says about every single issue in our life we tend to believe we have a solution to every thing. Someone shared with me the other day that we have reached the point where we believe we have a solution to everything and prayer is the last in the solutions.
If it’s work we believe we can solve it by degree, masters or PHD, if it’s single life we are not willing to wait and uphold purity so we solve it my moving in with the guy next door, if it’s marriage we handle it how we know best and when we feel it is not working we apply the ‘irreconcilable issues’ and file for divorce. Our walk with God is just another thing somewhere in between our busy schedule.
All that I have shared have been my life at one point; I have learnt that we need to be in a common ground with what the Lord says in His word. I hope you will find time even as I do to go through what the Lord says and seek Him concerning whatever issue you might be having going on.
It might not be any of the ones I have shared but I believe that through Christ there is totally nothing that is impossible.
Enjoy this Wonderful Worship by the Hillsong, All For Love